Toby Messer, NCPS
11 years in practice
Toby Messer is a psychotherapist who blends depth work with practical strategies.
License and registration
- NCPS
- NCS15-01812 · expires August 2026
- Years in practice
- 11
- Languages
- English
Details are as listed on the therapist's public professional profile. You can check the registration with the body that granted it.
About Toby
Toby Messer is a psychotherapist who blends depth work with practical strategies. He focuses on understanding why people feel and act as they do, while helping them make changes that matter now. Toby uses both analytical approaches and behavioural methods to address a wide range of concerns.
He draws on Jungian ideas alongside cognitive and acceptance-based techniques. This mix lets him look at underlying patterns and also try concrete steps to ease symptoms such as anxiety or low mood.
Background and approach
Sessions are conversational and aim to be straightforward and useful. Toby has worked in the field for 11 years and holds NCPS credentialing. He has experience helping people with stress, grief, relationship issues, addictions, and questions about identity and intimacy.
He also supports those facing career difficulties, caregiving strain, chronic illness, and life transitions. His approach is client-centred and collaborative. Toby listens for personal history, attachment patterns, and the stories people tell about themselves.
He then offers tools drawn from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy when they fit. Practical concerns like sleep, eating, and managing anger are addressed alongside deeper themes such as meaning, loss, and attachment wounds. Sessions may include discussion, behavioural experiments, and exercises to try between meetings.
Toby works with people across the United Kingdom and accepts international clients. Conversations are conducted in English, and therapy is offered through video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging.
Focus areas and approaches
Everything Toby lists on their public professional profile, in their own terms.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Grief
- Self esteem
- Depression
- Addictions
- LGBT
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Sleeping disorders
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Bipolar disorder
- Coping with life changes
- Coaching
- Compassion fatigue
- ADHD
- Abandonment
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Antisocial personality
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Fertility issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Gender dysphoria
- Guilt and shame
- Hoarding
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Paranoia
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Postpartum depression
- Post-traumatic stress
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Trichotillomania
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Toby names
- Jungian Therapy
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Systemic Therapy
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Online support
How online sessions use depth and practical methods
Jungian-informed work looks at personal stories, symbols and recurring patterns to uncover what lies beneath current struggles. This approach can help when people want to understand deeper roots of anxiety, grief or identity concerns. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on changing the relationship with difficult thoughts and feelings while committing to actions aligned with values. It is helpful for stress, avoidance, and coping with life changes. Attachment-Based Therapy pays attention to how early and current relational patterns affect reactions today and aims to build more supported ways of relating. It supports work on intimacy, communication and family-related stress. Finding the right mix of approaches is part of the therapeutic process. The therapist will work collaboratively to select techniques that match the person’s goals, preferences and practical needs. This means trying ideas, reviewing what helps, and adjusting the plan together. Online delivery makes therapy more flexible and accessible. Video calls are useful for a face-to-face atmosphere, phone sessions work well when bandwidth is limited, live chat lets for shorter check-ins during a busy day, and text-based messaging supports ongoing reflection between sessions. These options help people fit therapy around work, caregiving and travel while still working with registered or accredited professionals.We will earn a commission if you sign up through our link, at no cost to you. It does not change what you pay or the order of the listings.
Questions people ask
What kinds of concerns does Toby focus on?
He works with stress, anxiety, depression, grief and self-esteem problems, plus relationship and intimacy-related issues. Additional areas include addiction, ADHD, career and caregiver stress.
How would you describe his therapeutic style?
Toby combines Jungian-informed depth work with practical methods like CBT and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Sessions aim to uncover patterns while giving concrete strategies to try between meetings.
What is his professional background?
He has 11 years of experience as a psychotherapist and brings both analytical and behavioural approaches to his work. He integrates different methods to meet a person’s needs.
Where is he based and what credential does he hold?
He is located in the United Kingdom and lists NCPS as his credential. Sessions are offered to people in the UK and internationally.
Which languages are supported for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English for both UK and international clients.
What session formats are available?
Therapy is offered via video calls, phone sessions, live chat, or text-based messaging to suit different preferences and schedules.
How are costs handled for therapy?
Costs vary with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.
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